How to Have Ten Orgasms and Still Feel Lonely
A short book about pleasure, access, and the quiet architecture of loneliness.
Shipping late April 2026
Pre-orders now open.
You can have sex.
You can have access.
You can still feel lonely.
A short book about modern intimacy, dating apps and the illusion of connection.
How to Have Ten Orgasms and Still Feel Lonely is not a confession and not a warning.
It is an observation of what happens when pleasure becomes efficient, availability replaces intimacy, and loneliness learns how to hide inside abundance.
Across apps, nights out, and the quiet exhaustion that follows, the book traces a life that does not collapse - it simply drains.
Nothing goes wrong.
Everything works.
And that, increasingly, is the problem.
About the book
How to Have Ten Orgasms and Still Feel Lonely is a short observational work exploring intimacy in environments shaped by digital access.
When proximity becomes infinite, desire changes.
When pleasure becomes efficient, emotional connection behaves differently.
Across apps, nightlife, and the quiet spaces that follow them, the book traces the subtle shifts that occur when access replaces anticipation and abundance replaces intimacy. Encounters become easier. Availability becomes constant. Yet something quieter begins to appear: repetition, emotional distance, and a growing sense that connection can exist without ever quite arriving.
Rather than offering solutions, the book notices patterns - psychological, social, and technological - that quietly organise contemporary queer life. It looks at how intimacy behaves when choice becomes limitless, and how loneliness can persist even within environments designed to eliminate it.
It does not attempt to resolve the contradictions it describes.
It simply sits with them.
“Sharp, unsettling, and strangely calming.”
- Juan
First Edition Hardback
Black Wibalin cloth cover
Gold foil lettering
Approximately 80 pages
Signed first edition copies for pre-orders
Designed as a small collectible essay
Price:
£19.99
Post & Packaging:
UK - £3.50
Europe - £11.00
International - £14.00
Shipping late April 2026
Pre-orders now open.
Digital edition coming soon.
Early readers
“It’s rare to see contemporary queer life written about with this much clarity and restraint. The book feels small, but the ideas inside it are not.”
- Sam
“There’s something quietly uncomfortable about how accurate this feels. It names patterns many people recognise but rarely stop to examine.”
- Michael
“Sharp, unsettling, and strangely calming at the same time. It quietly captures something many of us feel but rarely articulate.”
- Juan
“I read it in one sitting and then immediately wanted to read parts of it again. It’s simple, but it stays with you.”
- Alex
“It made me realise how much work it can take to feel lonely now. The apps promise connection constantly, but somehow that only makes the distance more obvious.”
- Daniel
“I’ve seen chemsex written about a lot, but this felt different. It doesn’t try to explain it or judge it. It just shows the patterns, and that’s what makes it uncomfortable.”
- Marco